Happy birthday to you !
You are born. Your parents live on welfare, small criminality and garbage recycling. During your first years you will be used for begging and you will start with a significant development handicap due to horrific nutrition and living conditions.
You will be significantly more days sick than the average child. The worst will be your first 2 years. Accordingly, your brain development will be affected and you’ll have a high chance for a lower than average IQ.
Garbage recycling in a very toxic environment will be your next job – starting as soon as you are 3 or 4. If you are cute, disabled or you know how to play an instrument you might escape recycling and carry on with begging in the streets for much longer. There is a significant chance you will end up on the streets, sleeping in sewage systems or in a children institution if you have too many siblings or whenever your parents end up in prison.
By 8-9 you are “eligible” to contribute to your family needs by stealing from stores. By 10, prostitution and drug trafficking seem like normal occupations. By 12 you are at a very high risk of being used by criminal gangs as you are to young to be prosecuted. Before you are 14, you are likely to consider prostitution, stealing or selling drugs as ways to make fast money and escape living on or from garbage. Most children of your age are already involved in some or all of these criminal activities.
Kindergarten – in the unlikely case you went – and then school are going to be bad experiences. You will have to deal with the fact that average children hate you, that they call you names and make fun of your limited vocabulary, hygiene, clothes and smell. Teachers will put you as far away as possible from being seen by anybody and they will say nasty things to you or at best ignore you.
You will not fit in. You will not understand the purpose of studying. The probability that there will be somebody willing to encourage you and help you with school is very small. You will be moved to different places- sometimes abroad- and you will abandon school a number of times before the educational gap between you and the average children will become, pragmatically, impossible to recover.
You will grow up aggressive and illiterate.
You will witness lots of violence around you and you will think violence is part of normality. You will see prison as a prerequisite to becoming a “real” adult as many around you will be constantly going and coming out of prison. You will see lots of drugs and people abusing drugs. From time to time people you know will be killed in violent acts or by drugs.
At around 16 you will be angry and frustrated with everything around you. You will start to understand that you are in a trap and to escape it you need to go against all expectations and sometimes all odds. It will seem more realistic to you to “win the lottery” with a lucrative break-in, theft, or robbery, or by dealing drugs or trying out prostitution.
For you, success will be represented by those very few that got rich from being involved in drugs, theft and criminality; those who are uneducated like you but have a lot more money than the average citizen in your country. It is a lot more likely you will try to follow their model than going back to school for another 8 to 16 years.
There is a huge chance will end up in prison before reaching 21. As a male there is a high chance you will be raped while in prison. As a female, by 21 you most likely are already a single mother. You are hundreds of times more likely to have been raped, been used as a prostitute, have prostituted yourself for survival, and to be HIV positive than than the average girl in in your country.
You have almost no chance to integrate into mainstream society after 21. Around 90% of those like you that were sentenced once will return to prison –most of them quite soon after their first release. This will happen again and again.
After coming back from prison it is very unlikely there will be anything to do for you besides garbage recycling or getting involved again in criminal activities. You are at a very high risk to become addicted to drugs or alcohol.
You will live in a slum and you will have children that will follow the same cycle as you did.
You will end up your life as you started it. You will depend on miserable welfare handouts, begging and garbage recycling. You will die at least 20 years younger than the average citizen of your country.
You started like this (child begging in Bosnia 2013):
And you will have a very high chance to become this ( addict sleeping -2 meters from the school gate Romania 2013):
This is the cycle of life for far too many children and their families. I work now with some children that are the third lost generation.
You – my dear reader – you might think that these experiences are specific to a certain minority. One that some of you hate. You are wrong. The majority of those living in the slums are poor people and not ethnic minorities. And yes, this could have happened to you.
But you are lucky. If you are reading this, there is almost no chance that you were born in a ghetto. You think that this has nothing to do with you. The idiotic policies, the incompetent bureaucrats, the corrupt politicians, those dealing with child protection, they are responsible.
Some of them are indeed guilty. As are some of the parents of these children. And some of the many racists are guilty too. But YOU are the one who can change things.
We can break this cycle. I know how it can be done, and it’s been done before. Not systemically, but in many places on a small scale.
If we don’t make changes, the ghettos will explode. The number of people in the ghettos is increasing at a very fast rate. And sooner or later this will affect you or your children. Your worst fears about drugs and violence can become reality.
We need YOU. We need to put pressure on those who should be acting, and to support those who are already doing something. You can help by signing this petition: http://www.childpact.org/sign-our-petition/
You can also volunteer or get involved in other ways. If interested please contact me or see http://www.childpact.org
Source: Valeriu Nicolae blog